Premshree Pillai ([info]premshree) wrote,
@ 2004-10-12 21:15:00
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An Objective Conclusion
Most adult folks say that they’d like to be a child again. I’m not sure how many people actually believe it when they say that. I think majority folks from a past, depressed generation decided that they enjoyed their childhood days more and wanted to be children again; soon afterward, this became a cliché; folks from subsequent generations accepted this because it’s a cliché (and a cliché does not remain a cliché if it does not have majority acceptance), and these folks thought that it’s too important a cliché not to live till eternity. Thus the cliché still lives.

I, for one, like the point in life that I’m in. Independent (and you can’t be independent when you’re a kid). Not just (approximate) financial independence, but independence from most things that “normalcy” demands of you—studies, staying sober, foo, bar, etc.

Maybe I like this point in my life because I am in this point in my life. But maybe it’s not that. The thing is, when I was a child, I don’t remember ever saying that I liked being a child and want to remain one for the rest of my life. Now when I’m no longer a child, I still don’t want to be a child. Thus, I think, I’m being objective enough to say that I like what I am today.



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[info]radhika74
2004-10-12 09:47 am UTC (link)
totally agree..i also don't like the vulnerabilty being a child entails. i love being in control of my life as an adult..no one can mess with me!:)

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[info]premshree
2004-10-12 10:00 am UTC (link)
Control. Nice word. Most people want control over themselves. Those who don’t are probably masochists or kids.

And politicians are retards who are not satisfied with control over themselves alone—they want to control everybody around them.

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[info]code_martial
2004-10-12 10:02 am UTC (link)
And politicians are retards who are not satisfied with control over themselves alone—they want to control everybody around them.

Aaah! So that's the difference between masochism and sadism ;-)

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[info]premshree
2004-10-12 10:26 am UTC (link)
And when a politician doesn’t want control, that’s sadistic masochism. ;-)

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[info]code_martial
2004-10-12 09:51 am UTC (link)
I don't want to be a child either.

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[info]freegeek
2004-10-12 10:00 am UTC (link)
Independance can be boring too.

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[info]premshree
2004-10-12 11:07 am UTC (link)
I haven’t had too much of it, I think. I’ll have to wait and see.

Maybe it’s time you join politics? You’ll not have time to think about independence, only time to think of how better to spoil others’ lives. ;-)

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[info]freegeek
2004-10-12 11:12 am UTC (link)
Good idea. Since I'm doing a good job of spoiling mine.

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[info]four
2004-10-12 10:41 am UTC (link)
i agree with you. but not all adults are as independent as you. i could imagine having a wife, children, and a morgage would severally limit one's sense of freedom. tack on massive credit card debt and a substance addiction and you'd have me wanting to be a kid again too.

maybe the reality is that most adults are not more independent than when they were children.

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[info]premshree
2004-10-12 11:09 am UTC (link)
I like the point in life I am in at this point in life!. Yea, when I get married, have children, etc., things could be different. Gawd knows.

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[info]fus
2004-10-12 10:42 am UTC (link)
the point is not in wanting to be a child again but to not lose the child in you. that is a world of difference.

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[info]trenthamfamily
2004-10-12 12:57 pm UTC (link)
I wouldn't want to be a child again... what an add onto the other traumatic things I have yet to spill to my future shrink? No thanks. I have a book already.

Ah but the way around this is to have a child and live through them. Give them the greatest life ever. :-)

It seems to work with me!

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[info]premshree
2004-10-13 02:57 pm UTC (link)
... the way around this iq to have a child ...

Interesting. It's going to be a long, long time (ever? never?) before I get to experience that, though!

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[info]trenthamfamily
2004-10-14 08:19 am UTC (link)
Wow yeah my comment didn't come out right! LOL

What I meant by that was that I have a now 6 year old daughter that is just LOVING her childhood. We make it everything I wish mine was.

Her life at 6: Birthday parties, grandparents sleepovers, games and many other child like things.

My life at 6: Taking care of my newborn sister full time, no friends, no school, no kid stuff... heck, I could tell you how to take IV drugs because I got to see it.

;)

So yeah, I live my childhood through making hers the best I can make it. I didn't mean to HAVE a child to do that though. That just came out wrong.

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[info]premshree
2004-10-14 11:12 am UTC (link)
Wow yeah my comment didn't come out right! LOL
Hell, no! Your comment came out right! The way I said it made it sound that what you said didn't come out right.

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[info]trenthamfamily
2004-10-14 11:50 am UTC (link)
Okay then.........YOUR FAULT! :)

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[info]killapop
2004-10-12 09:06 pm UTC (link)
Hmmm...
I wouldnt mind being a child again. i guess it all comes down to what kind of childhood u've had and what u remember of it. actually i wouldnt mind going back to any point in my life. yesterday, last year, 10 yrs ago....

I love the state i am in right now. I loved the the state i was in, when i was in it.

In fact If i could re-live my same live over and over and over, it would be awesome. I dont think there was ever a moment when i was bored or wanted out. and i dont think i ever will.

>hic

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[info]fus
2004-10-13 12:00 am UTC (link)
and you have truly lived
and that is why wes all lurves yous sso much

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[info]premshree
2004-10-13 03:02 pm UTC (link)
I was looking at a kid the other day. I wondered how desperate he'd be to grow up if he knows how it is to be my age. But that's the thing about kids—they don't know how it's going to be like. And they don't have much of a past. They can't be choosers: there's nothing to choose from.

Maybe when you were a kid you did a lot of things that kids are normally not allowed to. Maybe you started consuming alcohol when you were a kid? :)

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[info]mannu
2004-10-13 09:38 pm UTC (link)
What? A serious comment by [info]killapop? Is it your birthday or something?

[info]premshree, when most people say they want to be a child, they probably mean they want to be like you again. :P You want to remain where you are -- that's understandable.

Alright, seriously, when people say they want to go back to childhood, they just want to go back to days when they were free of responsibilities and led a carefree life. I feel like going back to childhood too. The worst part is that there are too many crucial decisions to be taken as an adult, and no one likes having to take crucial decisions.

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[info]premshree
2004-10-14 01:39 am UTC (link)
Currently, I’m in a state where I’m mostly independent, and I’ve got very few responsibilities. I’m sure everybody goes through this stage in their lives. But this stage doesn’t last for long for most people—it’s fleeting in nature.

I think that’s one reason people like to dwell on their childhoods: they forget that the said state even existed.

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[info]astra1111
2004-10-13 12:37 am UTC (link)
Well every stage has its own Pros and Cons .......
there are times when u are really stressed out worried... to much tension... u say u would love to be a child... a stage where there is very little responsibility.....(I still feel this is the reason why most ppl would say that)..
I am really happy with my life 2.. but at times i really wish i could be a child again...(not forever) that does not mean one runs away from the present its just that... sometimes u need a break...
And wen u r a child and u dont have that kind of independence that u want u wish that u were an adult..

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[info]moccacino
2004-10-13 02:19 am UTC (link)
I had a great childhood but I was always in a hurry to grow up. And now that I have grown up, I am loving it. Never felt like being that child again. I guess, it isn't as much a cliché as being dissatisfied with what the present has to give to those who want to be a child again.

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[info]rileen
2004-10-13 05:09 am UTC (link)
I think it's more a question of people wanting to go back to some earlier, happier phase of their lives - for most people, that's childhood; but some do express a yearning for their high school or college days & so on.

I've been happy with most stages of my life, and the current one isn't too bad either, so it's not as if i'd rather be a child - but asked whether i'd like being a child again, i'd say yes. And the answer would be the same for most of the earlier stages if not all.

Nice to see that you're very comfortable with your current situation, that's a nice place to be.

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[info]premshree
2004-10-13 03:11 pm UTC (link)
That's my point. I don't understand why childhood has to be the best part of most people's lives. That's what I wonder—if people who say so actually beleive it, or they say it because most people say it.

By the way, good to hear from you after a long time. And get well soon!

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[info]rileen
2004-10-14 12:43 am UTC (link)
Of course some people may just be parroting the cliche, but i think many people really believe it.

By the way, good to hear from you after a long time. And get well soon!

Thanks :-)

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